Bah Humbug?

So I'm having a bit of a shit time, and it seems to me that a lot of my spoonie friends are too based on texts and Instagram stories and Facebook messages. I think this time of year is hard, and I'm writing this post to tell you it's perfectly okay if you feel that way too.

There's this pressure that's put on this time of year that everyone has to have a great time and celebrate. And while that's all well and good, it's still okay if you don't feel like doing that or simply can't manage. I'm not saying you shouldn't enjoy this time of year, or you shouldn't make the most of it. All I'm saying is you shouldn't feel pressured to do so either. Health doesn't magically pick up at this time of year, as much as we wish it would. So you need to remember to be gentle with yourself, and those around you too.

Over the next month or so your social media feeds are going to be full of festive parties and people dressed to the nines. And it's perfectly okay if you don't enjoy scrolling past or looking through all of those pictures. You don't need to feel guilty about that. You wish you were there, and I wish you were too, but sometimes that just isn't the way it works.

On the plus side, people like to stay in at this time of year too, snuggle up with a blanket and put a Christmas film on. Now there's a plan I can get on board with. Generally having a film on means people aren't talking too much, which if you're like me you'll find can be overwhelming at times. You won't have conversation to keep up with or noise sensitivity to contend with. You can simply relax for a bit, with the addition of some company! FYI, I recommend pets for this sort of subdued company too. I like to snuggle up with my pups, but if you're more of a cat person then that's okay too - I guess.

So if you're like me and you find the thought of Christmas Day more daunting than exciting, and you'll almost certainly be spending New Years Eve in your pyjamas - you're not the only one. And that's okay. You're perfectly entitled to enjoy this time of year however you'd like - and if that's spending the week in your festive patterned onesie then more power to you.

It's important to appreciate the people around you and take the time for them at this time of year (as it is at any time of year if you ask me). But it's also important to recognise that not everyone feels the same way about the festive period. Some people love it, some people don't. And neither of those opinions means more, or less, than the other.

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